Two weeks ago, I learned the fact that a couple that I’ve known like forever is getting divorce. The reason was he found some evidences that she’s been cheating on him. So yeah, like every other moral oriented person, I blamed the wife. What a bad girl she is. I can understand completely how disgraced he felt knowing that the woman that he married for more than ten years capable to do such thing. As he said, he was always tried so hard to be a good husband for her, provided all her needs and stuffs, but what did he get? A slap on his face!
But that was two weeks ago. Thing is, recently I watched his movie ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ and discovered shocking thing in relationship. Well, to be honest with you guys, it was not that shocking actually, only now I realized that it was okay to think it that way. Yeah, these whole times, I was always think that if you’re not happy with your partners, then of course you have a right to tell them and probably even more extreme, leave them. When I mention that to someone, he was like, “What religion are you in?” Now, what this got to do with any religion? I don’t get it. But because of the way he said that, I was kind of backed off and save my thought inside me and never discuss about it anymore.
Until this thing with the couple I mentioned above came up and everyone seems to ganged up with him and judged her as a sl*t, this thought came back to mind again. I was always believe in the phrase ‘It takes two to Tango.’ I don’t believe that he was the perfect guy and the only victim in this case. I mean, if their marriage was so perfect and he was never done anything wrong, then I don’t see any reason for her to cheat. I knew her for almost ten years, I know that we weren’t that close, but still I don’t think that she is a bad person. I mean, when you committed a crime of passion then who has a right to judge you whether you’re guilty or not? And seriously guys, if you commit yourself in front of God (read : marriage) does that ease your right to get bored with your partner? Does that mean that you already found your destiny? Your soul mate? What if the person you marry was not your destiny? Does marriage mean that your chance to meet your soul mate ended up there? For example, yesterday when my friend and I took a drive around there was this cute guy we met and tried to make contact with us but we drove off. All because of none of us are singles. Now, my question is, what if that cute guy was actually our potential destiny? Should we passed the chance to know him just because of we were taken? Hum, I know most of you will say if he is really our destiny then we’ll meet again. But what if this was the only chance for us to meet our potential destiny? What if there is no second chance? Should we just let it go while it was actually served in front of us already? Just because we’re unavailable?
As for the couple above, why can we look at their situation simply as a destiny. Maybe they are destined to fell apart. Maybe the other guy was actually her real destiny and not her husband. Who knows? Who can assure us that the person that we marry now is our destiny? No one. Things are change, so does feelings. You can feel madly in love with someone at certain time but in the different time you would thought, “I can‘t believe I fell in love with him.” That is so human. We never know what the future holds, so yeah, no one has a right to judge another when it comes to relationships. No one right and no one wrong. Just because of one cheating on another, doesn’t mean that he or she was the bad one in it. Hey, everything happened, happens for a reason, remember? And yeah, that reason doesn't have to be always morally correct.
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But that was two weeks ago. Thing is, recently I watched his movie ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ and discovered shocking thing in relationship. Well, to be honest with you guys, it was not that shocking actually, only now I realized that it was okay to think it that way. Yeah, these whole times, I was always think that if you’re not happy with your partners, then of course you have a right to tell them and probably even more extreme, leave them. When I mention that to someone, he was like, “What religion are you in?” Now, what this got to do with any religion? I don’t get it. But because of the way he said that, I was kind of backed off and save my thought inside me and never discuss about it anymore.
Until this thing with the couple I mentioned above came up and everyone seems to ganged up with him and judged her as a sl*t, this thought came back to mind again. I was always believe in the phrase ‘It takes two to Tango.’ I don’t believe that he was the perfect guy and the only victim in this case. I mean, if their marriage was so perfect and he was never done anything wrong, then I don’t see any reason for her to cheat. I knew her for almost ten years, I know that we weren’t that close, but still I don’t think that she is a bad person. I mean, when you committed a crime of passion then who has a right to judge you whether you’re guilty or not? And seriously guys, if you commit yourself in front of God (read : marriage) does that ease your right to get bored with your partner? Does that mean that you already found your destiny? Your soul mate? What if the person you marry was not your destiny? Does marriage mean that your chance to meet your soul mate ended up there? For example, yesterday when my friend and I took a drive around there was this cute guy we met and tried to make contact with us but we drove off. All because of none of us are singles. Now, my question is, what if that cute guy was actually our potential destiny? Should we passed the chance to know him just because of we were taken? Hum, I know most of you will say if he is really our destiny then we’ll meet again. But what if this was the only chance for us to meet our potential destiny? What if there is no second chance? Should we just let it go while it was actually served in front of us already? Just because we’re unavailable?
As for the couple above, why can we look at their situation simply as a destiny. Maybe they are destined to fell apart. Maybe the other guy was actually her real destiny and not her husband. Who knows? Who can assure us that the person that we marry now is our destiny? No one. Things are change, so does feelings. You can feel madly in love with someone at certain time but in the different time you would thought, “I can‘t believe I fell in love with him.” That is so human. We never know what the future holds, so yeah, no one has a right to judge another when it comes to relationships. No one right and no one wrong. Just because of one cheating on another, doesn’t mean that he or she was the bad one in it. Hey, everything happened, happens for a reason, remember? And yeah, that reason doesn't have to be always morally correct.
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