Tuesday, May 4, 2010

The Brides War

As I told everyone before, I write about almost everything, including this one. Yesterday morning, my day started like normal which having breakfast while watching ‘Market Review’ on telly checking on my stocks hoping that I might sell something in the market today and make some money. But just typical Indonesian television, the program was having a technical problem so they couldn’t give us the ticker tick on stocks prices. So, stuck with some useless news on the market, I started flicking the channels and there was this movie ’The Brides War’ on one of those movie channels that caught my attention. First of all, I love Kate Hudson. For me, she is the funniest girl in the world and seems decent. Second of all, it was Bryan Greenberg. Am so crazy about him since he was in that TV show ‘October Road.' And also, he looks decent. The only problem I got was this actress Anne Hathaway. Seriously, for me, she is so annoying. Specially her big lips, they are that big, I have a problem to just ignore those jokerly look whenever she smiles. But, since she was outnumbered by Kate and Bryan, so I was managed to finished the film.
Here is the thing, the storyline of the movie was so real for me and my dear friend. Of course not exactly the same, but what happened between Kate and Anne’s characters reminded me of what happened recently between me and my best friend. Just like the characters in the movie, we’ve been friends like almost forever, since we were thirteen. Of course, as we were grown up together, we are not always be in harmony all the time. Just like in the movie, actually we’re two different individuals. My best friend is more like Kate’s character and am Anne’s. Yeah, my best friend is the one who has that strong personality while am more like a follower. She was also has that potential to be accused as a mischievous one and I was the tame one. We even joke once said that if there was a bomb exploded in a room and we were the only two people in that room, then everyone would easily pointed their fingers to my friend as a suspect who did the bombing thing and never me. Despite on any evidence. Hah!
Back to my point, just like those two characters in the movie, a month ago we were having a problem. No, I won’t tell you guys what the exact problem was, that would be inappropriate. But, the thing that I want to tell you that, there was a lesson of life that I’ve learned over the movie that resembled my own experience. Because no matter what happened between you and your best friend, deep inside your heart, you knew who your real friend is. When Kate’s character and Anne’s character were having a problem, they were kind of mean to each other, and so did we. When we were having a (sort of) fight, we also can be mean to each other. But, at the end of the day, our heart can not lie, we missed each other deeply. For me, no one can replace my friend’s spot in my heart. Even though I’ve tried to socialized with someone else and tried to make new friends, but still, they were never the same. Besides, for me, all of those problems that we’ve been through, actually allowed us to know each other better. Therefore, we can understand each other even better. So it was kind of lesson of life for us. I mean, even Mick Jagger knew that we can’t always get what we want. So yeah, we adjust. When we decided to be friends with someone, then we have got to take them as they are, right? I think, friendship is even deeper than love relationship. I’ll tell you why, we tend to be more adjustable when it comes to friendship. It was inappropriate for us to change our friends, but for some reason, it was acceptable for us to do it to our partners. I mean, many times I heard someone said, “I knew he was wrong, but he’s my friend,” while if our partners did the same thing, then it would be like, “He can’t do that. He’s my boyfriend!”
So, my point is, friends in general, best friends to be exact, is something special in a truer meaning. Selfishness is not something that we normally do with our friends but with our partners. Sense of owning that often driven to jealousy belong to love relationship, not friendship. With friends, you don’t have to be always at the same page, but at the end of the day you need each other. Friendship is a place where you can be who you are and there was someone in there who will always put up with your crap.
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To all of my dear friends, I don’t have to mention any names here, but you know who you are…I love you with all my heart, you guys rock!

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