In The Name Of Love

My friend Wina (not a real name, of course) cheated on her husband. When I asked her why, she said that she really-really in love with this new guy and she said that this new guy really brought something different in to her life, bla-bla-bla. She even think of leaving her husband for him. The only thing that stop her from doing that was a little boy that they have together. One question came up in my mind? How far someone will go in the name of love? Would they sacrifice everything that they got in life just because of a little thing called love?
When I graduated from university, my boyfriend back then proposed to me. And I turned him down, because even if I was in love with him at that moment, but I knew that I could not sacrifice what I got just because of that. I still wanted to pursued my dreams. And even if I loved him, I didn’t think that I would willing to spent the rest of my life with him. So, here I am now, got almost all of my dreams and have no regret what so ever.
When I decided to be with my man, I knew that was not just because of love. I can assure you that love was not even the first consideration back then. I am very sure that love is not something immortal. It can be faded away, and when that time come, you will look for something new out there. I chose to be with him because of the comfort feeling that he gave me all the time and all the good things in life that I learned from him that makes me believed that I could be a better person if I am with him (sounds cliché, but true though). And I never got this from anyone else before. So, when my love faded away, like couple years ago, I did look for it somewhere else, but I did not cheating on him. Well, at least not physically. Oh, no…I will not do that. Even in the name of love…specially in the name of love!
Back to my friend Wina, she is still with her husband now. But she also keep her relationship with the new guy. I feel sorry for her hubby, but one of my German friend who lives together with her boyfriend in Germany once said that if her boyfriend leaves, then maybe there is something wrong with her. That her boyfriend must find something that he wanted but he could not get it from her. Hum-mm, I don’t know about this. In my friend’s case, this is probably right. Her husband’s job makes him travels a lot and leave her and their son for months. He only comes home like every third month and stays for couple weeks and then back to work again. Like my friend said, she has her need to fulfill indeed. But can that justified her affair? Can love justified her affair?
When you decided to marry someone, isn’t it not just about love but also a commitment? If you committed to spend the rest of your life with someone, you know…the ‘till death do us part’ thing in your wedding’s vow, don’t you think that you have an honor to keep those words? And don’t you think that to keep your vow, it needs a lot more than just love? And folks, if you are cheating on your spouses, please don’t blame love for that. Because love is not that strong, but passion and temptation are. Well, at least judging by their name, they should be.
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Slave Of Modernization

What were we doing before mobile phone even exist? How do we communicate with our love ones when our jobs forced us to mobile? Are we in the era where people so depends on gadgets, such as mobile phone, computer, and stuffs?
I have three mobile phones. Well, I used to have four but as I wrote before, I lost one of them at Changi airport Singapore on my last trip there (don’t even ask, it’s a long story). But yeah, I have three mobile phones, one for my personal matter, one for my business, and one was for nothing since I got this phone for free from one of my Credit Card’s company, so why not? And I am a mobile person, so I really do need this gadget.
Last week, I dropped my O2 Xda phone (I told you that I am a clumsy girl, aren’t I?) and this thing suddenly went bonkers. I could not make any calls, but still good on text. Since I got two other phones, I was kind of let it laid for a while. I was like, I will put it in to a service center as soon as I got time. Then, out of sudden my man lost his phone at work so that he needs a phone to use temporarily until he got time to have a look and buy a new one. Of course, I lend him one of mine, still got one working phone on me, right?
Wrong. Yesterday morning, I charged my Motorola V3 before I left home. This cute little thing did not response. I wasn’t really sure it was the charger or the phone was broken, but since the phone still work properly, so I supposed it might be the charger. I still can use this thing until yesterday afternoon when the battery went off. No choice, I have to put my mobile phones in to the service immediately. But they need two working days to fix them. So, here I am, so get used to my mobiles that I always call as my LSS (Life Supporting System), but have to let them go for a couple of days. How could I?
Well, first day successfully passed. Actually, I was kind of like it. Not too good on my business side though, since I could not contacted my broker at stock market to found out about my shares, but look at the bright side of it, Indonesian stock exchange’s index actually went down more that 3% today but I did not know anything about it and can still enjoy my day! And look at another bright side of it, normally if I was not at home, my man always call to check on me. You know, where am I, who I’m with, what time will I be home, those kind of things, but now he could not tracked me down. A-ha!
So, am I a slave of modernization or I am just a normal person who follows the world? What were we doing before mobile phones came to our life? Even if I was okay on my first day without my mobiles, but still, can not wait for tomorrow so I can pick up my phones from the service center!
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Are You Man Enough?

My man hates pink color. For some reasons he just could not stand of the color that he thought was a girlie one. A question came up in my mind? Is pink is a girlie color? I do like pink, but I am not a girlie type of girl. No-no, I am not. What is wrong with that color that makes men a little bit uncomfortable with it? My gay friends always refuse to use that color because they thought it will be too obvious for them. I was like, how come?
For century now, most of people think that gender has color. If you are going to have a baby girl, then you decorated her room in pink. And if you are going to have a baby boy, then blue is the color. Funny though, this color thing only happen to men. Women never even bother. If they said blue is a man’s color, then why women never feel intimidated with this color. We are okay wearing blue outfit or black or any other color.
One of my male friend said that he won’t wear any pink or red color outfit, because he is afraid some people might have a wrong impression on him since he is indeed a little bit soft kind of guy. I was like, so what? Why a lot of guys afraid of people might have a wrong impression of them if they are wearing a certain color like pink? If you think you are man enough, if you think that you kind of a macho guy, then why you so intimidated with a color? Don’t you think it is in fact showing that you are probably not sure about your self? If you feel comfortable with your self, don’t you think you should be brave to wear any color without thinking that other people might think of you as the other way?
So guys, are you man enough to wear pink?
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When You Leave Me

If you leave me tomorrow
Don’t bother to wake me up
Or even leave a note
Because the last thing that I want from you is your goodbye
If you leave me, don’t worry
There will still be a memory
About you and me and our story
About how making love can be such a beauty
If you leave me, I won’t be sad
Even you’re going to take away half of my heart
Even if I let you taking the best of me
But I have no regret, no I don’t have
And Baby, when you leave me
Just go and leave me alone
I promise you there will be no tears
Because I won’t cry for my stupidity
So Baby, when you leave me tomorrow
Don’t bother to wake me up
Because there is no point for me to be awake
Until you are back, I’d rather be asleep
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White Lie

Do you believe in white lie? Could you lie to make someone happy? Or you a straight forward type? Black or white type? If someone asks you a question, and you know that your answer is going to hurt his or her feeling, do you lie to them? Or do you say the true even though you know that you are going to hurt their feeling?
I have a cute online friend whom I enjoy sharing story together. Lately it was became a little bit too far between us. When I asked him if he has a lot of online friends like me, he said that he used to, but not anymore since he knew me. I was like, yeah right. Deep inside my heart I knew that was a bunch of lies. But it doesn’t matter. At that time, I was happy to hear his answer. And even if he is in fact lying to me, I considered it as a white lie. He did it just to make me feel good, and it worked.
My girlfriend such a sweet talker. One day in a party, we met a friend who totally had a messed up style. Her nail polish was way too ’business girl’ look and her clothes was way over the top of fake designer’s stuff. Totally messed up. I was nearly chocked when said hello to her and really tried hard not to laughed at her. But my girlfriend, such a nice talker, said; ’Omigosh, you are so beautiful…where did you got your nail polish from? Such a beautiful color’. I was like, come on! But the girl bought that and kept smiling all night long. She acted like she owned the night, isn’t it good for her? Can you imagine, if someone told her the truth? She’d probably ended up went home in tears. Well, I would if I were her.
Last week, my man and I were invited to a friend’s birthday party. When I got dressed, I asked him which dress should I wore that night, the blue or the green one? He said, it didn’t matter because both are look perfect on me. I was like, of course! I knew that I was not perfect on both, no one would. But his answer still made me feel good. And he just made my night.
So, if you lie to make someone happy, does God consider it as a sin or the other way? Is there any white lie or lie is simply just a lie?
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What The Worst That Could Happen?

Do you believe in superstitious things like most of Indonesian does? Normally this kind of mambo-jumbo things came from family, such as our parents or grandparents. Since my parents did not believe in such a thing, neither do I. That is why when my contractor who supposed to fix my swimming pool said that they couldn’t started work on Tuesday because it is not a good day to start working, I was confused. Later on I found out from my maid that Tuesday is a bad day to start anything, don’t ask her why since she didn’t know either but that was what her mom told her.
I was planned to go to Singapore on Wednesday last week but I couldn’t get any flight. The only flight that I could get was on Tuesday. My travel agent’s guy said, it was probably because of not a lot of people love to travel on Tuesday since that day is not a good day for traveling. Because of I don’t believe in any of those, then I took the chance and went to Singapore on Tuesday. I thought, what the worst that could happened?
I was landed on Changi Airport Singapore at 12 noon, was pissing down. The last thing that you wanted on your shopping trip is a rain. I was still thinking that was all right. It was nothing to do with today is indeed Tuesday. Was it? Arrived at my hotel at 12.30, surprised-surprised…my room was not ready yet as my man’s secretary who booked a hotel for me forgot to tell the hotel that I was arrived at 12 pm. Okay, I was still tried to think positively, it was just a coincident. So, after put all of my luggage on concierge’s desk, I was off on shopping, never mind the rain, I need to freshen up myself. Back to my hotel, my room was ready, guess what floor they gave me? Yup, 13th floor! I was like, give me a break! All night in Singapore I was barely slept. I don’t know why, but I just couldn’t get comfortable at all, even the hotel was a 5 stars one. Until my last day in Singapore the weather was still awful. At the airport on my way back home, I thought, that’s it. I’m off of this city. This was my last day here, what the worst that could happened?
Well, how about losing my mobile phone at the airport? Yup, I was too busy shopping at duty free shop and forget to pay attention on my mobile. I did checked it back to all the shops that I have been to, but nobody seen anything. Yeah, right. And that was my favorite PDA phone, my business phone. All of my business number was there. Gosh, for the first time in my life I started to gave a doubt about this Tuesday superstitious things.
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I Love You Just The Way You Are

Don’t go trying some new fashions
Don’t change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passions
I love you just the way you are
(I Love You Just The Way You Are - Billy Joel)

One of my girlfriends talking about getting a boobs job and her husband tried to stop her from doing it because he said he love her just the way she is. I was nearly choked of laughed when I heard that. Come on man, you really think that we are going to stop doing something that we wanted just because you said that? Not in a million times! What about our own opinion? Our own standard? Our own desire? Oh yes, we do have them all. And believe it or not, everything is not always about you, guys.
Couple weeks ago, I was feeling heavier than normal so I decided to loose a couple pounds of my weight. And my beloved man said that I did not need to since he thought I was perfect the way I was and he loves me just the way I am. Well, thank you Darling, but did it stop me from doing my diet? Nope. I have my own standard of looking good and when I want to look good, it is not because I want to look good for him, but it is for my own self. That simple.
Why it’s so hard for guys to believe that we (read : girls) also have our own desire. Is that because of men’s ego makes them thinking that everything we have done in our life has got to be something that connect to them? Well, guess what guys, so not true. When we said we want to fix a little thing that we don’t like about our self, doesn’t mean that we want to look perfect for our partner or any other guys, but we do it for our self. So this ’I Love You Just The Way You Are’ things doesn’t really works for us (sorry Billy!). We do love you guys, but everything is not always about you.
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